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  • Writer's pictureKristine D'Angelo

Creating An Altar Ego For Role Play

Updated: Jan 29, 2018


Altar ego is Latin for "the other I". It's a different version of one's self. So think of who you are today and picture who the opposite you would look and sound like. An altar ego is either somebody you create or some people are known to have two sides to their personality, naturally.


When you create an altar ego it makes role playing so much more fun and personalized. Creating an altar ego allows your inhibitions to be lowered and you find yourself exploring things that could once have been scary or uncomfortable. Have you ever experienced feeling more alive or adventurous while wearing a certain Halloween costume? This is the same idea only you're actually becoming the character you're dressed up as.


Fun happens! Seriously though, role playing with your partner is a fantastic way to spice things up between you and your partner. It allows for fun, creativity and intimacy to brought into your relationship. A night of role playing can be WHATEVER you want it to be, that's the fun of it. You can take it all the way and be in character for a whole night or 10 minutes before you have sex. It's 100% up to you and what you're comfortable with. Once you start to explore role playing though you'll have so much fun that you'll want to do it again and again and again!


STEP 1: Think about who you want to become and make some notes. Some things to consider:

  • What name do I give my altar ego

  • Where is my altar ego from?

  • What kind of attifute does my altar ego have?

  • What color hair?

  • What kind of make-up would my altar ego wear?

  • Why is my altar ego in said city I'm in- business perhaps?

  • What is does your altar ego do for work?

  • What kind of clothes does my altar ego wear?

  • What kind of lingerie (if any) does my altar ego wear?

Think about yourself and the answers to these questions.. now choose the opposite or close to opposite of what you are for real.

STEP 2: Now that you've got some basic questions answered, create a Pinterest profile page. If you already have a pinterest page, great! Start a private board that only you can see. Now, start pinning looks, ideas, destinations, make-up ideas, wigs and other accessories that your altar ego would want on their pinterest page. Why? This allows you to keep a visual representation of what your altar ego wants to be. This is also a great place to start planning your first altar ego debut! Where do you wanna take your honey? A hotel bar? A local hotel room? It can literally be any place doing anything you want to do.

STEP 3: Once you start buying all the accesorisies for your altar ego's outfit you'll need to find a really good hiding spot for everything. The last thing you want is your partner finding your items or your children!! You want the ultimate element of surprise so remember that when you start receiving packages in the mail or bringing them home!

STEP 4: The planning begins! You'll need to set up your special night way in advance so you can cover all your bases. Do you have your full outfit together? Are reservations made? Are you good at keeping a secret? Do you have chilcare? All of these things, if you're planning a surprise role play night will need to be done in secret, so remember to cover all your bases!

I remember the first time I did all this and it was scary and exhilerating at the same time! I did have a shot of tequila before heading down to the hotel bar to meet my man, I suggest you do the same to calm your nerves a little bit! Good luck, you got this!

For more information about Kristine D'Angelo, Certified Sex Coach please visit her About page on her website.


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